Many of us dream of the perfect love life.

We imagine a happy and healthy relationship that makes us grow and becomes better with time. But it’s easier said than done. We want to have meaningful relationships but, nowadays, it looks like the dating scene is infected with an abundance of choices and superficiality. This makes it one daunting task to stay in a healthy and long-term relationship. No doubt the initial spark is pretty and dreamy and you might feel yourself gliding on cloud nine, but it takes a lot more than romance to carry on a relationship for a long time and make sure that it grows into something.

It is a common belief that the person who is the best for you would not only compliment you and make you feel better but, will bring out the best version of you. You would feel as if you can do anything you put your mind to. But, it is essential that you don’t expect an effortless-relationship. This way, you would drop everything and run at the smallest problem. Remember, every healthy relationship reaches its current status by going through some rough patches of its own.

The notion of a soulmate is both romantic and damaging, but healthy relationships are nurtured and developed over time; they don’t surface out of the blue. It takes a lot of time and effort to make your relationship a healthy one that lets you both grow into better people.

Here are the 7 signs which indicate that you might already be on that level of your relationship:

1. Accepting each other for who you are:

Couples in a healthy relationship, accept each other completely. Qualities and flaws alike. They don’t try to change you and accept the responsibility of their actions. It is natural to assign blame when things go wrong in a relationship. But, in a healthy relationship, partners take responsibility for their own actions. They accept the things that might have hurt their partner so they can apologize and make amends.

Accept what your partner chooses to be but, it doesn’t imply that you should accept weakness. Work together to make each other grow. Everyone has some flaws and cracks in their personality and, that is how they can let the light in. You have to encourage each other to grow for the better and inspire each other to be a better person.

 2. You both have let go of the past:

Everyone has a past. In healthy relationships, partners accept each other’s past wholeheartedly. You need to know that the mistakes and failures of your life, set you on the path to attainment. Those in a happy and loving commitment, do not let the mistakes of their past define their present relationship.  Instead of getting jealous of each other’s ex-partners and getting into each other’s past mistakes, you both acknowledge the past, move on and appreciate how you both have turned out because of your past.

3. You both trust each other:

The best of relationships form on mutual trust between the couple. Take the example of a couple in your circle. It could be your family or two people from your friend circle. Chances are that their reason of splitting was trust issues. It is one of the most important factors in a relationship and vital for it to sustain healthily.

Trust is not something that’s earned the moment you get into a relationship. It’s built over a spell of time. When you trust your partner, you give them freedom without getting jealous or suspicious of their activities or using spouse monitoring apps, like Xnspy, on them so you can sneak on their online and offline activities. You also let your guard down in their company as you are well aware that instead of judging you, they will be your support system.

4. You two can talk about anything and each other:

Couples in a healthy relationship tell each other everything. They share great communication skills. Sharing one’s thoughts and feelings is extremely important when you are with someone. It is through communication you are able to express what you want and learn what your partner needs from you. People in a healthy relationship easily express their physical, emotional, and spiritual needs to their partner.

For some, speaking their mind could be a daunting task. But, those in a healthy relationship share a comfort level and don’t hold back because they realize no matter how hard it is, the other person has the right to know the truth.

5. You both are on the same page:

People in a healthy relationship have a common ground. Yes, it is essential to have your own individual identity and interests, but it is also crucial that people in a relationship share a common ground. Sharing a mutual interest and passion for something gives birth to a bond. It means that you can both enjoy and gain pleasure from something together rather than “bearing” your partner’s interests or lifestyle.

You both don’t have to be exactly the same. You cannot exactly be the same. You might have clicked because of a shared interest. But, your partner could have some hobbies you are not particularly fond of and vice versa. Even if don’t find some of their hobbies interesting, you don’t speak of this. Rather, you encourage and support each other’s passion no matter how different they might be from your interests. You encourage and support each other’s passion. Also, people in a healthy relationship are on the same page regarding basic values and life goals as well. They both know what they want from their relationship and life. They both know what their common goals are and what needs to be done to achieve those goals.

6. You both give each other space:

Healthy couples enjoy each other’s company and spend a lot of time together, but, at the same time, they give each other space. Checking up on one another all the time and wanting to be with each other every second is not a healthy sign; it only indicates a lack of trust in a relationship.

People in a happy and committed relationship recognize the significance of not being together all the time. Personal space is extremely important for individual growth. We need time to reflect and explore ourselves on our own as people around you only help you grow as a couple but, giving each other space lets you grow individually.

7. You encourage and lift each other up:

A good sign of you being in a healthy relationship is that your partner lifts up your mood when you are down. They encourage you, try to remind you of your strengths so that you can ease up and let go of your fears. In a healthy and growing relationship, both partners build each other’s confidence while reminding them that they can do anything with or without each other’s help.

When you decide to be with another person for life, it is about starting a journey together. You both are willing to spend your life with each other without giving up on each other. Remember, a healthy relationship takes time, trust, and effort. It is built on mutual inspiration and motivation. Your partner should inspire you to be the best self and feel strong enough to face anything that life throws at you.

Author: Jennifer Steve